Today, I wanted to focus a little on the things I wish I knew when I was younger. I try my best to impart everything I’ve learned about life to my students, but there are some days that it’s best to just listen. Or simply to not say anything, as strange as it sounds. I’ve always felt that empathy for other people doesn’t have to be a big display- that you can feel the bond of shared experiences, both good and bad, with those around you even if they choose not to speak openly about them. I would like to say some of those things now, bluntly, if that’s okay.
Life is hard. Some days are going to suck, and things will be a lot worse than your failed algebra final, or that no one chose to eat lunch with you today.
There will be people in your life, at some point and for whatever reason, that are not good. It’s up to you what you choose to do with them. From my experience, I will tell you this:
Those “friends” that are making you miserable, you don’t need them.
That guy who isn’t treating you well, you don’t need him either.
Those invisible boundaries and all the mind numbing pressure you put on yourself to succeed, they’re irrelevant. If it’s not helping you now, it won’t help you in the future.
Surround yourself with people who hold you up and give you confidence. They’ll be your family, if you let them.
The people you look up to, the people whose lives you want, are all fighting their own invisible battles. Don’t presume to know what their lives are like, or that they’re somehow easier than yours.
It’s cliché , but your life is exactly the way it’s supposed to be. However, you get to decide what kind of person you want to be. Focus your energies on the things you can change, try to forget about the things and people you can’t.
It’s important to say that I’m still working on all this stuff. So perhaps this post is best entitled “Advice to My Younger Self.”
Just some thoughts for a dreary Tuesday.